Land of the disappearing daughters – 2: India bans her daughter from speaking out her pain.


India banning something is not new for anyone who knows the history of this country when it comes to expressing itself. Movies and books are time and again banned here, the recent one being ‘50 shades of Grey’ and BBC documentary on Nirbhaya ‘India’s daughter’ which is our point of discussion here. Freedom of speech and expression is relative to in India and it heavily depends on fancy of the government law makers and the censor board. But now that the documentary is banned almost everyone including myself have seen it and it is good not only for BBC but for humanity as a whole. Banning something like this only helps in its popularity. This act by the government also shows the immaturity of the people at the helm of decision-making and their underestimation or lack of knowledge when it comes to understanding the level of maturity of the people of the country. Irony is that they are appointed by us, the same very immature people of the country.

There is actually nothing wrong with the documentary but it is how we think is the problem here. A documentary, documents an event and the director decided how he/she wants to tell the story. How people view it, perceive it, think about it, discuss about it, is their prospective and should be left to them. No one should have the right to decide it for us. If you ask me the views of the convict is a case study for criminal psychology and fools psychology when it come his lawyers. The documentary as such is a mirror for this country, its law makers and its society in general. It shows how hypocratic we are because one day we ban this document and after two days we celebrate womans day (Nari Shakti). We as a society are quick to point out bad things. We are busy doing post-mortem of what the convict and his lawyers said in the film but no one saw how as a country we stood up against this social parasite? Why didn’t we see the larger picture this mirror showed us and the world about our country and its people?

The director of this BBC documentary is herself a rape victim from Britain. So that means rape happens across world and it is not only India’s problem. She came to this country not to show how sick a society or a country we are as she refered after the ban. She did not come such a long distance to point finger at us. She came to show the world a movement that this country could gather against this crime. A movement which had no leader. A movement which arose from the pain people felt. It was the same pain which she felt or Nirbhaya must have felt. She came to show the world that there is hope. When she saw the anger and pain which Nirbhaya felt and our people felt she could not stop herself from highlighting it to the world. Who doesn’t make mistake but it is a rare instance when a society realises the mistake and try to restrict it by shouting out loud ‘this has to end’. Should we be ashamed of this documentary? No, but I am now ashamed after the documentary has been banned.

We forget time and again banning a documentary, a film or a book will not serve any purpose. Problems are solved by discussing it, finding our solutions to it and most of all taking the right decision at the right time. If this does not happen and we keep banning things like this, we will keep loosing our daughters to feticide, rape, dowry, child marriages, murder in the name of family pride etc. If we as a society fear to see our ugly faces in the mirror shown to us by these writers and directors and keep breaking them we will not learn from our mistakes. We should learn from parents of Nirbhaya. She lives in us through these initiatives and banning them is like killing your own daughter. Being insensitive to her pain.


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